The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee
Monday, September 4th, 2006 - 12:49 pm
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. “Now,” said the professor as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else–the small stuff.
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
Thanks to Deb Moralez for sending this to me. I don’t typically read these kinds of emails that I get, but this one is too perfect not to share!
Is your eBay /Internet business a pebble or sand? For your sake I hope it’s NOT a golf ball!
God Bless!
Jim Cockrum . com





WHAT A GREAT STORY, in principle, BUT I wouldn’t say going for medicals should be ‘golf balls’ in anyones life.. that’s a very sad philosophy - narrow minded. Keeping your dignity, privacy and intimacy for friends and family is far more important than physical health, which you don’t NEED doctors for anyway.
Loved the story Jim -
and of COURSE we readers have our priorities in order (ahem)
Here’s a test folks: ask your partner, your friends, or your kids, what THEY think your Big Rocks are!
Or perhaps you’re like some people I coach who’ve been working too hard to even HAVE a partner, friends or kids….they reckoned they’d focus on that later
Sarita Premley
http://www.deeperhappiness.com